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August 15, 2007

 
August 15, 2007---IT'S A BOY

 
August 15, 2007
Born in Elkin North Carolina on Wednesday, August 15, 2007 @4:20 pm, 7lbs 4 oz. We were so excited. The first son, grandson, great-grandson and the first boy in our family in 22 years. Amber made it home from college in time to be present for your birth. She has never loved another baby the way she loves you.
 
Our Little Blessing

 
August 15, 2007

 
August 17, 2007

Your first day at home. We still cannot believe we have a precious baby boy in the family. You are so special to all of us.

 
August 18, 2007
Today was your first trip to Old Nanny & Old Pa's house. Oh how they love you. They took turns holding you. Old Nanny said that you should come at least twice a week to visit and it was then decided you would make Monday and Thursdays your set days to visit and any other days that you could come would be great!
 
August 24, 2007
You are 9 days old today. This is the first day you get to stay with Amber. She is so exicited. She loves you so much. You are the highlight of her life. She is really good with you. She will not let anybody do anything for you. She wants to do it all herself. She has officially declared that Friday is Amber & Ashton time.
 
August 25, 2007
Well, Uncle Donnie, Amber, Bradley and myself are so thrilled that you are back with us today for a little while. Me and Amber are going to take you to see Old Nanny & Old Pa and to meet your Uncle Wayne & Uncle Lanny today.
 
August 27, 2007
Well, it's Monday and you know what we do on Monday's. That is one of your Old Nanny & Old Pa days. So me and your nanny will take you to see them just as we promised. Old Nanny was waiting on the front porch for you. Her and Old Pa just cannot hold you and love on you enough.
 
August 30, 2007
Well, it is Thursday and it is Old Nanny and Old Pa day again. They are eagerly waiting for you when we get there. They just pass you from one to the other, loving you and talking to you.
 
August 31, 2007
Well, it is Friday and Amber has been waiting for you all day. She can't wait to see you--she doesn't get to be with you through the week but she sure makes up for it on Friday. She would love to take you back to Greensboro with her.
 
September 3, 2007
Well, Ashton, here we go to Old Nanny and Old Pa's. Your mama has dressed you so pretty in the outfit they bought for you. You are so precious. Nanny and Pa are waiting for you as usual. They just love you so so much. Today we took you to visit Kenneth, Brenda, Carol and Connie, Old nanny and Old pa's friends from church. Old Nanny and Old Pa are so proud of you, they just have to show you off to everybody.
 
AMBER'S BUDDY

 
September 6, 2007
It is Old Nanny and Old Pa day again. I think you are starting to get used to all the spoiling you get when you go. You love it and we love to take you.
 
September 10, 13, 17, 20, 2007
All of these were Old Nanny and Old Pa days for you. They both think that Monday's and Thursday's will never get here. They would love to see you every day.
 
September 22, 2007
Well, you get to stay with me and Donnie today. We are so happy to have you. We love you so so much.
 
September 24, 27 2007
Well, you went to Old Nanny and Old Pa's on these days. They can't believe how much you have grown.
 
October 1, 2007
You were such a good baby at Old Nanny and Old Pa's tonight. You just cooed and acted like you wanted to talk so bad.
 
October 5, 2007
Well, tonight you are staying with me and Uncle Donnie while your mama and daddy go to the fair. We are so happy to have you here with us. You have brought such joy to our lives.
 
October 7, 2007
Well, what a surprise! Me and Amber get to enjoy you for a little while today. When your mama called and asked us to keep you for a little while, we jumped at the chance. We love it when you come. You are our joy.
 
October 8, 2007
Well, we are off to Old Nanny and Old Pa's again. After all, it is Monday and it is your one of your special days with them. As always, they are thrilled you are coming. You look so cute in your little pumpkin outfit that your mama dressed you in. Of course, Nanny said her favorite thing "I could just eat him!"
 
October 13, 2007 7:24 am (Saturday)

When I answer the phone, I cannot understand what your nanny is trying to tell me but I know that she is so upset she cannot even get the words out and then finally I hear what she is saying to me, the words that will never go out of my mind, "They think that Ashton is dead." Did I really hear that right? It cannot be real, she must have gotten the wrong misunderstanding. I wake Bradley to tell him that I have to go and that I cannot breathe. The 7 mile drive to the hospital seemed to take forever, the whole time I am crying, shaking so hard I can hardly drive and saying over and over, this cannot be happening. As I pull into the parking lot, I see your mama lying on the ground, and your nanny leaning against the wall. As I run to them, I know that it indeed must be true. I feel like I am going to die. How could this possible be happening? Your nanny and I were supposed to take you to Old Nanny and Old Pa's today. Why?? There are so many questions and so few answers. This whole thing has been a horrible nightmare. I really do not remember what happened next, the next thing I remember I am going back to the Emergency Room where your mama is sitting in a wheelchair and you are wrapped in a blanket looking like you did so many of the times I held you and watched you sleep, except you were not asleep, you were already in Heaven. How in the world are we ever going to tell Old Nanny and Old Pa? Your Nanny and I agree that I should go get them. We did not want them to hear this horrible news over the telephone. But I have to call Amber to stay with your Nanny, I cannot leave her. Finally, Old Nanny and Old Pa know. Ashton, I am 45 years old and I can honestly say I have never ever heard either one of them weep the way they did that day. When we got back to the hospital, I see Amber, oh how heartbroken she is. How will she ever deal with this? She has never loved another baby the way she loves you. She looked so forward to Fridays, that was your special time with her. After we all gathered back inside at the hospital and each of us held you, kissed you and said our goodbyes (even though it still does not seem like this is really happening) we have to do the hardest thing we have ever had to do, we had to leave you. I have to be home when Donnie gets home from work. Of course, he is crushed, as we all are. Our hearts feel like they have been ripped out of our chest.  Friends and family are called, lots and lots of tears are shed for you, our Angel.

 
October 13, 2007 (Saturday)


Ashton received his Angel Wings on Saturday, October 13, 2007.
 
 
October 13, 2007 In Loving Memory

IN LOVING MEMORY OF
ASHTON MICHAEL SPICER
AUGUST 15, 2007-OCTOBER 13, 2007


Though the Lord only let us borrow him for 8 1/2 short weeks, he was very special to all of us.
He was "mama's little man" and "daddy's pride and joy".
Ashton, we love you and miss you so much. You brought so much joy to all of us. 
Please remember us all in your prayers.
Amy & Marty (Mama & Daddy)
Emily & Shyann (Sisters)
Donna & Red (Nanny & Pa Spicer)
Rita & James (Nanny & Pa Williams)
Mary & Don (Old Nanny & Old Pa)
Timmy, Melissa, Jason, Amber (who loved him so so much), Bradley, Kristi, Donnie and all the many others who were blessed by his short time here.


 
IN HIS HANDS

 
October 14, 2007 (Sunday)

Was yesterday really true or was it just a dream? Your nanny and I go to your house today to see how your mama and daddy are coping. They are not. Oh so heartbreaking to walk in to see your little bed and all your stuff, your pictures, knowing that you are not there. Today is a really really hard day, especially for your mama, she has to tell your sisters. As she gathers Shyann in her arms and tells her "Ashton is not here, he had to go away, but it is okay, he is in Heaven." Oh the heartbreak in the eyes of a 6 year old who loved you so much. She did not ask any questions, she just broke down and wept for you. Does she really understand? We are not sure, but we do know that she knows you are with Jesus now. After a while, me, your mama, your Nanny, Amber and Shyann leave to go get Emily (she spent the night with a friend.) Your mama has to tell it all over again to her. As soon as we pull in the driveway, she knows something is wrong. She immediately starts asking "What is wrong?" When she gets in the car, Shyann tells her and the 12 year old who acted like she was your "little mama" was devastated. While she is crying so hard she can hardly speak, she is trying to ask Why? Baby, if only we knew. Only God knows. We then go to Old Nanny and Old Pa's where the loss is so evident in their eyes, you were their pride and joy. We spent some time talking, crying, and remembering your short life here. After a while, your mama decides she needs to get you something to be buried in so me, your nanny and Old Nanny go with your mama to do this. She cries the whole time, saying she should not be doing this and we know she shouldn't. No mama should ever have to go through this kind of pain. She picked out the most beautiful outfit, some white socks (because you always wore socks) and a blue blanket for you. I think we are all still in shock. Our hearts are broken. We miss you so much, our Angel.

 
October 15, 2007 (Monday)
Another heartbreaking day without you, a day that we are supposed to be showing you off, telling everybody that you are 2 months old today. "Happy 2 months old, our baby boy." We have alot to do today. We call the funeral home to see what we need to do, none of us know, we have not had to do this before. We make an appointment to meet with them tomorrow. Because you had to go for an autopsy, they will not have you at the funeral home until tomorrow afternoon. It seems like it has been forever since Saturday. We go to the cemetary to pick a place for you. Your mama wants you to be beside of your great uncle, Michael, since that is who you were named after. Today is spent with family and friends, remembering you and longing to hold you just one more time, our angel.
 
October 16, 2007 (Tuesday)
Today is going to be a hard day for all of us, especially for your mama and daddy. We are going to the funeral home so they can make arrangements for you. As we meet with the funeral home director, I can tell how numb your mama is. The director explains what families usually do in these situations and then asks your mama and daddy what they want to do. Your mama keeps looking at me and your nanny for answers but we tell her that this is her decision and we want things exactly the way she wants them. We are only there for support. They decided to have a private viewing for family tomorrow at 11:00 am and your mama and daddy will come at 10:00 am to spend an hour with you before the rest of us get there. The graveside service will be at 2:00 pm tomorrow with Steven Shumate officiating. Your mama wanted Old Pa to have the service but he said he did not think he could. Now we have to go to the florist to pick out flowers for you. Your mama and daddy picked out a beautiful spray of baby blue daisies, white roses and blue baby's breath. They also got an arrangement to match the spray. Your mama picked out a beautiful white satin heart shaped pillow for you and wanted 4 white roses and blue baby's breath around it. After this, your mama wanted me and your nanny to take your clothes back to the funeral home so they would have them when you got there. She also wanted you to have your blue teddy bear, the one your nanny bought for you. Next, we went to have some 8 x 10 pictures made of you for the service because your mama and daddy chose not to have you open. This has been a hard and trying day for all of us but we are really dreading tomorrow. We spent the rest of the day again with family and friends remembering you, our Angel.
 
October 17, 2007 (Wednesday)
Well, here it the day we have all been dreading. It just makes it all seem so final. We are first going to the family visitation. We get to the funeral home at 11:00 am. Me, Donnie, Amber, Bradley, your nanny, Emily, Shyann, Old Nanny, Old Pa, Wayne, Shelby, Lanny, Brenda, Timmy and Melissa meet in the parking lot so we can all go in together. We know that your mama and daddy have been in there with you for the last hour. Uncle Lanny and Uncle Donnie have decided that they will not go in and see you. They really don't think they can stand it. We really do not know what to expect because when we met with the funeral home director yesterday he told us that because of the autopsy, he did not know how you would look. We all went through the doors and there you were, our most beautiful angel. We absolutely thought our hearts had been ripped out of our chest. You are so beautiful. You looked like you were asleep with your little blue teddy bear beside you. If only you were, but we all knew you were in Heaven. There's your mama and daddy, so heartbroken and honestly probably still in shock. Oh, dear Amber, how can this be happening? Is your special little one who was the apple of your eye really gone? Your little darling that you reserved your Fridays for? To prepare Amber for this, I know that you were giving her a special hug from Heaven. She is like everyone else, so heartbroken. She actually gets physically sick. As I am on my way back from the bathroom with her, I see your Uncle Donnie and Uncle Lanny sitting there. Uncle Donnie wants to know how you look. I told him you were the most beautiful angel I had ever seen. He then decides he wants to be with you just one last time. We go back in and he just stands there and openly weeps for you as so many of us have. After lots of hugs and tears we decide it is time to go. Some of us kiss your sweet little cheeks and say our goodbyes. We go out and then your nanny and I decide we need to go back just one more time. I let her have her time with you as she did me. Oh, how precious you are. We then go to Old Nanny and Old Pa's. People from Old Nanny and Old Pa's church come with lots and lots of food. Your Pa comes to meet with us at the house before we go to the church. At the church, people are gathered waiting for us to arrive. Under the tent, there you are beside of a table with your pictures and three little red roses, one from Emily, one from Shyann and one from Amber. The service starts off in prayer, then Steven asks Barbie to sing. She sings "What A Day That Will Be." That is the song your mama picked out for today. There could not have been more appropriate scripture that what Steven had read today. "For God So Loved The World, That He Gave His Only Begotten Son, That Whosoever Believeth In Him Should Not Perish, But Have Everlasting Life." He spoke for a few minutes, told everyone how they could see you again and spend eternity in Heaven. Barbie then sang "Amazing Grace". After the service, Amber, Emily and Shyann, took their roses and placed them in your spray. Your mama had a hard time leaving you there, she wanted to stay. Pa finally talked her into leaving and coming back later that day. We then all gathered back at Old Nanny and Old Pa's to remember you, our Angel.

 
Ashton's Obituary



Ashton Michael Spicer


Ashton Michael Spicer
Born in Surry County on Aug. 15, 2007
Departed on Oct. 13, 2007 and resided in Jonesville, NC.

Visitation: No Visitation
Service: Wednesday, Oct. 17, 2007
Cemetery: Little Mountain Baptist Church Cemetery


Infant Ashton Michael Spicer, of Vestal Road, passed away Saturday, October 13, 2007 at Hugh Chatham Memorial Hospital. He was born August 15, 2007 in Surry County to Marty Williams & Amy Spicer.

Survivors include: his father and mother, Marty Williams & Amy Spicer of the home; two sisters, Emily Spicer and Shyann Vestal of the home; paternal grandparents, James & Rita Williams of Jonesville; maternal grandparents, Red & Donna Spicer of Jonesville; maternal great grandparents, Rev. Don & Mary Stanley of Hays, paternal great grandmother, Dorothy Kimmer of Jonesville; maternal great grandmother, Helen Spicer of Elkin.

A graveside service will be held Wednesday, October 17, 2007 at 2:00 p.m. at Little Mountain Baptist Church Cemetery by Rev. Steven Shumate.

Online condolences may be made at www.hodgesfuneralhomeinc.com

Hodges Funeral Home in Elkin is serving the Spicer family.


 
OUR COMFORT

 
OUR ANGEL

 
OUR ANGEL

 
November 13, 2007

Ashton earned his angel wings 1 month ago today.

 
November 15, 2007

Happy "3 months old" today, angel.

 
November 22, 2007

Happy First Thanksgiving, Angel.

 
December 13, 2007
Ashton earned his angel wings 2 months ago today.
 
December 14, 2007
Well, today has been a very hard day for all of us. I went with your mama to get your autopsy report. We met with the medical examiner who went over your autopsy report in detail. Surry County is blessed to have such a caring person to do that job. Your death certificate says "Sudden Infant Death Syndrome". According to the report you entered into heaven at 7:41 AM, even though we know that as soon as you took your last breath you were in the arms of Jesus. The final autopsy diagnosis was"Leptomeningeal hyperemia and primary thin superficial subarachnoid hemorrhage" related to birth trauma. He told us that 25% of all babies born via natural births have these small brain hemorrhages. Sometimes they heal on their own and sometimes they do not. Yours happened to be one of the ones that did not. He said we could compare it to an adult having a brain aneursym. No warning signs, no symptoms. And that is very true. You were always happy, the perfect baby, never sick. He said the pressure from these tiny hemorrhages just builds up and within a very short time the reflexes slow, the breathing slows, the heartrate slows and finally stops. He assured us that you did not suffer, you simply went to sleep. Nothing will ever ease the pain of losing you but I am thankful that God chose to take you that way. We could have never stood the pain of watching you suffer. He explained to us that there was nothing that anyone could do, even if we had've known of these hemorrhages. Another thing I am thankful for is that we did not know because I do not think we would have enjoyed you the way we did for those 8 short weeks if we had've known. We would have constantly worried and fretted over you. He told us as hard as it was, we just had to try to the best of our ability to accept that this was God's plan for your life. And we know that but it doesn't make it any easier. You weighed 11 lbs and 12 ounces and you was 23.6 inches long. Your hair was was 1 cm long. He said we were fortunate in knowing the contributing factor to your death as alot of parents go through life without ever knowing. He also said that we were blessed to have you for 8 weeks. He said most of the time, babies with this condition do not live that long and if they do, they start having seizures and other problems within hours or days of birth. He also told us that there was a 99% chance that CPR or any other means of medical intervention could not have saved you or brought you back but if that 1% chance had happened and God had allowed you to live, that you would have had multiple medical problems and lived a miserable life, and I am also thankful that God did not allow your life to be that way. He told us if we had any questions once we read over the report that we were welcome to call him and we could even talk to the physician who had done the autopsy. After we got the results, me and your Nanny went to Old Nanny's and Old Pa's to tell them. We did not want to tell them over the telephone. Our minds are eased that we at least know the cause, but baby boy, that does not lessen the pain of knowing we can no longer hold you, feed you, bathe you, or rock you to sleep but we find comfort in knowing you are in Heaven and you will never know any pain, any sorrow, any sickness, nor feel any effects of this old cruel world. We will forever remember you and all of our love is never ending. 




YOUR SPECIAL ROSES FROM EMILY, AMBER AND BODIE.

 
December 14, 2007

SIDS Facts... 

SIDS claims the lives of almost 5,000 infants in the US each year...that's nearly 7 babies every day. SIDS claims more babies than any other disease.


1.) SIDS deaths occur unexpectedly and quickly to apparently healthy infants, usually during periods of sleep.

2.) SIDS is not caused by suffocation, choking, or smothering.

3.) SIDS is not caused by child abuse or neglect.

4.) SIDS is not contagious.

5.) SIDS occurs in families of all races and socioeconomic levels.

6.) SIDS cannot be predicted or prevented and can claim any baby, in spite of parents doing everything right.


For more information on SIDS & SIDS Facts, please visit 
http://www.sids.org

 
December 15, 2007

Happy "4 months old" today, angel.

 
December 20, 2007

 
December25, 2007

 
December 25, 2007

Your First Christmas. You are spending it with Jesus and many other angel babies. I know Michael is taking care of you. MERRY CHRISTMAS PRECIOUS ANGEL.
 
DECEMBER 25, 2007



ANGEL ASHTON'S FIRST CHRISTMAS TREE 2007

 
December 25, 2007

 
January 1, 2008



TO OUR ANGEL

 
January 3, 2008


MISSING YOU, OUR ANGEL

 
January 13, 2008
Ashton earned his angel wings 3 months ago today.
 
January 15, 2008

HAPPY "5 MONTHS OLD" TODAY, OUR ANGEL.

 
January 15, 2008

 
WE MISS YOU

 
February 13, 2008

 Ashton earned his angel wings 4 months ago today.







 

 
FEBRUARY 14, 2008

HAPPY 1ST VALENTINES DAY, ASHTON!!

 
February 14, 2008
 
February 14, 2008

 
February 14, 2008

 
Happy Valentine's Day

Happy Valentine's Day Our Angel

We Love and Miss You so much.........

NANNY & PA

 
fEBRUARY 14, 2008

HAPPY VALENTINES DAY BABY BROTHER, WE LOVE YOU AND MISS YOU --EMILY AND BODIE

 
February 14, 2008

 
February 15, 2008

HAPPY "6 MONTHS OLD" TODAY, OUR ANGEL.

 
MARCH 13, 2008

ASHTON EARNED HIS ANGEL WINGS

5 MONTHS AGO TODAY


 
March 15, 2008


HAPPY "7 MONTHS OLD"--OUR ANGEL BABY.

 
MARCH 23, 2008

ANGEL ASHTON'S FIRST EASTER BASKET

 
EASTER 2008

 
HAPPY EASTER - MARCH 23, 2008

 
Easter 2008

 
March 23, 2008-Ashton's First Easter

HAPPY 1ST EASTER ASHTON

 
April 13, 2008

ASHTON EARNED HIS ANGEL WINGS

6 MONTHS AGO TODAY.

WE MISS YOU ANGEL................

 
April 15, 2008

 

HAPPY "8 MONTHS OLD" TODAY OUR BABY BOY...

 

 
April 26, 2008
Today was a tough day. Me, your nanny, Old Nanny, Old Pa and Amber went to pick out a headstone for you. Amber actually picked out the one she liked and we were all satisfied with it. She wanted to put your picture on it so she is now in the process of choosing the one that she wants to use. I know it will be a hard choice for her. I will add a picture of it when it is completed.
 
May 5, 2008
Today your Old Pa and Amber went back to the funeral home to take the picture she chose for your headstone and also to show them how she wanted the foot marker for you. I know it was a hard day for both of them. Amber wants things perfect for you. I will post pictures when they set the stone.
 
MAY 13, 2008

ASHTON EARNED HIS ANGEL WINGS 7 MONTHS AGO TODAY......... 

 
May 15, 2008

Happy 9 Month's Old Today

Sending you lots of hugs and kisses, our Baby Boy

 
JUNE 13, 2008

ASHTON EARNED HIS ANGEL WINGS 8 MONTHS AGO TODAY. WE MISS YOU SO MUCH.

 
June 13, 2008
Well they set your stone today. It is beautiful. Amber done such a great job of picking out the stone, the picture and the foot marker. I know you are looking down knowing how much love she put into it. Please hug her extra tight and send her bunches of love and kisses.

 
June 15, 2008

 

HAPPY 10 MONTHS OLD, BABY BOY.

WE MISS YOU AND LOVE YOU

 
June 20, 2008
They came today and put the base under Michael's stone. Old Nanny and Old Pa miss you both so much...

 
JULY 13, 2008

 
JULY 15, 2008

HAPPY 11 MONTHS OLD TODAY, BABY BOY. YOU ARE DEARLY LOVED AND FOREVER MISSED.

 
August 15, 2008

 

HAPPY 1ST BIRTHDAY ASHTON 8-15-2008

YOU ARE SO MISSED AND SO LOVED

 
September 7, 2008

 

OLD NANNY HAS YOU IN HER ARMS ONCE AGAIN. I KNOW YOU WERE WAITING FOR HER WHEN SHE ENTERED INTO HEAVEN TODAY.

 
October 13, 2008

 
January 9, 2009

UNCLE WAYNE JOINED YOU TODAY

 
February 14, 2009

 
April 12, 2009

 
HAPPY 2ND BIRTHDAY

 
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